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Why Are Sexual Assault Victims Often Silent? Choose Necessity over Nostalgia.

Rabbi Eliyahu Fink

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This week’s Torah (Five Books Of Moses in the Old Testament that is read weekly by Jews) portion is VERY on point with the cultural shift we are witnessing regarding sexual harassment and abuse.

People wonder, why didn’t the victims speak up earlier? Why are they silent?

Isaac loved Esau and Rebekah loved Jacob. We are very accustomed to this arrangement. Clearly, the story vindicates Rebekah. She was right all along. It seems that Isaac’s geriatric blindness was a physical manifestation of something that preventing Isaac from realizing that Jacob was his true heir.

The confounding thing to me, is that Rebekah never seems to tell Isaac that Jacob is more deserving of Isaac’s blessing than Esau. Why not have a conversation and get on the same page? Isn’t that what we would do? Isn’t that what we actually do?

If you examine the text, you’ll notice something pretty amazing. There is not a single recorded conversation between Isaac and Rebekah until Jacob must flee to Haran and then the first conversation occurs between Isaac and Rebekah. The first! Rebekah begs Isaac to prevent Esau from marrying a Hittite woman. That’s it. Isaac doesn’t even respond to his wife. He just prohibits Esau from marrying a Canaanite woman. Rebekah is not heard from again.

When Rebekah and Isaac meet for the first time, they do not speak.

A quarrel between Sarah and Abraham is recorded in the Torah. A quarrel between Rachel and Jacob is recorded in the Torah. We don’t even get an argument between Rebekah and Isaac.

When the couple settles in Gerar, Isaac does not even tell Rebekah that she is to say she is his sister. Isaac just says it to the people of Gerar inquiring about his wife. Abraham asked Sarah nicely if she would please say that she was his sister. Isaac and Rebekah never even discuss it.

It seems that a lot of heartache could have been prevented if Rebekah and Isaac would have been able to communicate. But they did not communicate and so we can assume they could not communicate. Rebekah was the invisible wife and it led to catastrophe.

Rebekah was chosen for her kindness. How often are we silent because “it’s not nice to say anything” or “it will be uncomfortable” for the other person. That’s kindness. That’s nostalgia. We don’t want to ruin the superficial peace. But sometimes it’s necessary to say speak up. Sometimes it’s better to speak and feel awkward or make another person feel awkward, than it is to protect ourselves and others from discomfort. Sometimes we need to choose necessity over nostalgia.

It’s not just about speaking up or staying silent. We often choose nostalgia. But we can not afford to choose nostalgia over necessity. We need to do what must be done even when it appears to create disharmony for a moment. But usually the sacred unity we are protected was counterfeit. It was pure nostalgia.

Choose correctly.

Necessity over nostalgia.

Rabbi Eliyahu Fink is a rabbi in Beverly Hills, CA. For nearly 7 years Rabbi Fink was the rabbi at the famous Shul on the Beach in Venice CA while he built on online community with his blog, Finkorswim.com, and social media networks. After he left the Shul on the Beach, Rabbi Fink created the shulontheinternet.com, a new media platform for the nexus of popular culture and creative original digital Torah content, and in partnership with Hevria, a platform for teaching his unique version of non-conformist Orthodox Judaism.

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NRA’s Chris Loesch Tried to Get Me Fired from My Job

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You can’t make this up: Chris Loesch of the NRA called up the US Secret Service and tried to get me fired from my job, because I criticized the NRA and his wife for being hypocrites.

Seriously — he actually has been calling the Secret Service up over and over again looking to get me fired. I’m not sure why, as a private citizen that like millions of other people that dislike the NRA, I am a target.

Here’s the problem: I haven’t worked as a consultant for the Secret Service in 20 years, and no longer have anything to do with them whatsoever. Calling them up is only going to annoy them, because I’m neither an employee or contractor.

Still, it raises questions why Chris Loesch would target me of all the people out there to get “fired” from his job? I can only assume its because I’m a visible progressive Jew and he’s such a snowflake that he needs to threaten people with exposure to get his way.

However, this is what the NRA does: they threaten people with violence and exposure to hurt them on a day to day basis. That’s when they aren’t molesting their own kids.

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Facebook Bans Alex Jones After Threatening Women and Immigrants

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Facebook and Apple have removed content belonging to controversial radio host Alex Jones.

Jones’ pages were removed from Facebook for “repeatedly posting content over the past several days that breaks” community standards, including urging his followers to harass and illegally threaten minor victims of violent shootings,

“All four pages have been unpublished for repeated violations of Community Standards and accumulating too many strikes,” a Facebook post said. The four pages were Alex Jones Channel Page, the Alex Jones Page, the InfoWars Page and InfoWars Nightly News page. Jones himself was placed on a 30-day block for his role in posting the content.

Facebook said the violations included posts that glorified violence and others that used dehumanizing language to describe people who are transgender, Muslims and immigrants. Jones is able to appeal the ban but if he doesn’t or those efforts fail, the pages will be removed permanently.

The pages have more than 2.5 million followers.

The Facebook ban comes after Apple, YouTube and Spotify removed Jones’ podcast and videos from their platforms. Apple’s decision removed five of Jones’ six podcasts, including “The Alex Jones Show.”

Jones is known for promoting a host of conspiracy theories, most noticeably one that claims the 2012 shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School was fake and those involved were actors. Families in the massacre that claimed the lives of 20 young children have filed defamation lawsuits against Jones.

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ICE Barricades Entrances to Prevent Protestors from Entering Government Building

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U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement officers barricaded an employee and visitor entrance Wednesday to prevent activists from performing an “occupation” of the agency’s D.C. headquarters.

Several dozen activists had intended to enter the building to protest Trump administration deportation and border detention policies, but arrived to find temporary fencing and a line of officers blocking their way.

Amid heavy rain, activists chanted slogans anyhow, including “quit your jobs!” at Department of Homeland Security guards and ICE employees who peered from windows.

The protest was organized by Movimiento Cosecha and was advertised in a press release as a demonstration by “undocumented activists and allies,” as similar protests occur in other cities.

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