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Why Are Sexual Assault Victims Often Silent? Choose Necessity over Nostalgia.

Rabbi Eliyahu Fink

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This week’s Torah (Five Books Of Moses in the Old Testament that is read weekly by Jews) portion is VERY on point with the cultural shift we are witnessing regarding sexual harassment and abuse.

People wonder, why didn’t the victims speak up earlier? Why are they silent?

Isaac loved Esau and Rebekah loved Jacob. We are very accustomed to this arrangement. Clearly, the story vindicates Rebekah. She was right all along. It seems that Isaac’s geriatric blindness was a physical manifestation of something that preventing Isaac from realizing that Jacob was his true heir.

The confounding thing to me, is that Rebekah never seems to tell Isaac that Jacob is more deserving of Isaac’s blessing than Esau. Why not have a conversation and get on the same page? Isn’t that what we would do? Isn’t that what we actually do?

If you examine the text, you’ll notice something pretty amazing. There is not a single recorded conversation between Isaac and Rebekah until Jacob must flee to Haran and then the first conversation occurs between Isaac and Rebekah. The first! Rebekah begs Isaac to prevent Esau from marrying a Hittite woman. That’s it. Isaac doesn’t even respond to his wife. He just prohibits Esau from marrying a Canaanite woman. Rebekah is not heard from again.

When Rebekah and Isaac meet for the first time, they do not speak.

A quarrel between Sarah and Abraham is recorded in the Torah. A quarrel between Rachel and Jacob is recorded in the Torah. We don’t even get an argument between Rebekah and Isaac.

When the couple settles in Gerar, Isaac does not even tell Rebekah that she is to say she is his sister. Isaac just says it to the people of Gerar inquiring about his wife. Abraham asked Sarah nicely if she would please say that she was his sister. Isaac and Rebekah never even discuss it.

It seems that a lot of heartache could have been prevented if Rebekah and Isaac would have been able to communicate. But they did not communicate and so we can assume they could not communicate. Rebekah was the invisible wife and it led to catastrophe.

Rebekah was chosen for her kindness. How often are we silent because “it’s not nice to say anything” or “it will be uncomfortable” for the other person. That’s kindness. That’s nostalgia. We don’t want to ruin the superficial peace. But sometimes it’s necessary to say speak up. Sometimes it’s better to speak and feel awkward or make another person feel awkward, than it is to protect ourselves and others from discomfort. Sometimes we need to choose necessity over nostalgia.

It’s not just about speaking up or staying silent. We often choose nostalgia. But we can not afford to choose nostalgia over necessity. We need to do what must be done even when it appears to create disharmony for a moment. But usually the sacred unity we are protected was counterfeit. It was pure nostalgia.

Choose correctly.

Necessity over nostalgia.

Rabbi Eliyahu Fink is a rabbi in Beverly Hills, CA. For nearly 7 years Rabbi Fink was the rabbi at the famous Shul on the Beach in Venice CA while he built on online community with his blog, Finkorswim.com, and social media networks. After he left the Shul on the Beach, Rabbi Fink created the shulontheinternet.com, a new media platform for the nexus of popular culture and creative original digital Torah content, and in partnership with Hevria, a platform for teaching his unique version of non-conformist Orthodox Judaism.

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First Lady’s Office Becomes Political Pawn for Trump, Issues Statement Against Samantha Bee

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First lady Melania Trump’s office responded to TBS comedian Samantha Bee’s profane tirade against presidential adviser Ivanka Trump by saying it was an example of an “astounding” double standard.

“The double standard is truly astounding. Time and again the Trump family and members of this Administration are subjected to false reporting, hateful rhetoric and outrageous lies all in the name of freedom of speech or comedy, yet the mainstream media stays silent,” her spokesperson said.

Bee had called Ivanka Trump a “feckless c**t” in a segment targeting her for posting a photo with her daughter over the weekend.

Strangely despite the office of the First Lady, didn’t actually have the First Lady, Melania Trump saying these things, as she is still missing.

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Is Vegas Sheriff Lombardo’s Career Over? Hidden Wife Connected to Ponzi Scheme of Former Lover and Son

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People are already calling for the Sheriff to step down after a report from an investigative journalist on the conspiracy site Inforwars was confirmed by others. According to the report Sheriff Lombardo has been hiding a “secret wife” from the public because she was a partner and lover to convicted fraudster William Gayler, and even had a child with him – who is now living with Lombardo.

Lou Colagiovanni puts together a very good case that the Sheriff was personally involved in helping to make sure nothing happened to Mr. Gayler that could show up in the public, and that his prosecution was handled with kid gloves.

“The Trial of William Gayler was rolling along at a typical pace until it became inconvenient for Joe Lombardo’s aspirations to ascend to the office of Sheriff of Clark County. In May 2014, just six months before the election, the trial of William Gayler began to crawl to a snail’s pace and the trial did not resume at a typical speed until February 2015 after Joe Lombardo won the election.”

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GOP’s Michael Lee McDonald arrested in Nevada for Burglary & Forgery.

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One of Nevada’s up and coming Republicans is in deep trouble after being arrested. Michael Lee McDonald of Las Vegas was arrested for burglary, forgery and offering a false document.

His attorney, who is also running for a position, said that the arrest is unrelated to his bid for the Nevada State Assembly.

McDonald, a Republican, is running for Assembly District 20, which covers parts of Paradise and Henderson.

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