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Why Are Sexual Assault Victims Often Silent? Choose Necessity over Nostalgia.

Rabbi Eliyahu Fink



This week’s Torah (Five Books Of Moses in the Old Testament that is read weekly by Jews) portion is VERY on point with the cultural shift we are witnessing regarding sexual harassment and abuse.

People wonder, why didn’t the victims speak up earlier? Why are they silent?

Isaac loved Esau and Rebekah loved Jacob. We are very accustomed to this arrangement. Clearly, the story vindicates Rebekah. She was right all along. It seems that Isaac’s geriatric blindness was a physical manifestation of something that preventing Isaac from realizing that Jacob was his true heir.

The confounding thing to me, is that Rebekah never seems to tell Isaac that Jacob is more deserving of Isaac’s blessing than Esau. Why not have a conversation and get on the same page? Isn’t that what we would do? Isn’t that what we actually do?

If you examine the text, you’ll notice something pretty amazing. There is not a single recorded conversation between Isaac and Rebekah until Jacob must flee to Haran and then the first conversation occurs between Isaac and Rebekah. The first! Rebekah begs Isaac to prevent Esau from marrying a Hittite woman. That’s it. Isaac doesn’t even respond to his wife. He just prohibits Esau from marrying a Canaanite woman. Rebekah is not heard from again.

When Rebekah and Isaac meet for the first time, they do not speak.

A quarrel between Sarah and Abraham is recorded in the Torah. A quarrel between Rachel and Jacob is recorded in the Torah. We don’t even get an argument between Rebekah and Isaac.

When the couple settles in Gerar, Isaac does not even tell Rebekah that she is to say she is his sister. Isaac just says it to the people of Gerar inquiring about his wife. Abraham asked Sarah nicely if she would please say that she was his sister. Isaac and Rebekah never even discuss it.

It seems that a lot of heartache could have been prevented if Rebekah and Isaac would have been able to communicate. But they did not communicate and so we can assume they could not communicate. Rebekah was the invisible wife and it led to catastrophe.

Rebekah was chosen for her kindness. How often are we silent because “it’s not nice to say anything” or “it will be uncomfortable” for the other person. That’s kindness. That’s nostalgia. We don’t want to ruin the superficial peace. But sometimes it’s necessary to say speak up. Sometimes it’s better to speak and feel awkward or make another person feel awkward, than it is to protect ourselves and others from discomfort. Sometimes we need to choose necessity over nostalgia.

It’s not just about speaking up or staying silent. We often choose nostalgia. But we can not afford to choose nostalgia over necessity. We need to do what must be done even when it appears to create disharmony for a moment. But usually the sacred unity we are protected was counterfeit. It was pure nostalgia.

Choose correctly.

Necessity over nostalgia.

Rabbi Eliyahu Fink is a rabbi in Beverly Hills, CA. For nearly 7 years Rabbi Fink was the rabbi at the famous Shul on the Beach in Venice CA while he built on online community with his blog,, and social media networks. After he left the Shul on the Beach, Rabbi Fink created the, a new media platform for the nexus of popular culture and creative original digital Torah content, and in partnership with Hevria, a platform for teaching his unique version of non-conformist Orthodox Judaism.

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AG Whitaker Alleged to Have Served on Board of WPM

Polipace Staff



The FBI is reportedly conducting a criminal investigation related to World Patent Marketing, a company that was shut down in 2017 after the Federal Trade Commission alleged that it operating “an invention-promotion scam” that tricked “thousands of consumers out of millions of dollars.”  According to recent reports, new acting Attorney General Matthew Whitaker served on its advisory board.

Alleged WPM Conduct

In 2017, the Federal Trade Commission charged the operators of an invention-promotion scam, World Patent Marketing, with deceiving consumers and suppressing complaints about the company by using threats of criminal prosecution against dissatisfied customers.  At the FTC’s request, a federal court temporarily halted the Florida-based scheme and froze its assets pending litigation.

“This case is about protecting innovators, the engine of a thriving economy,” said then Acting FTC Chairman Maureen K. Ohlhausen.  “The defendants promised to promote people’s inventions and took thousands of dollars, but provided almost no service in return.  Then they added insult to injury by threatening people who complained.”

According to the FTC, consumers paid an individual and various corporate entities thousands of dollars to patent and market their inventions based on bogus “success stories” and testimonials promoted by the defendants.  But after they allegedly strung consumers along for months or even years, the defendants purportedly failed to deliver what they promised.  Instead, many customers allegedly ended up in debt or lost their life savings with nothing to show for it.

WPM Threats of Legal Action

The FTC also alleged that the defendants used various unfair tactics, including threats of legal action, to discourage consumers from publishing truthful or non-defamatory negative reviews about the defendants and their services.  According to FTC attorney Richard B. Newman, the agency reported that one customer who sought a refund and filed a complaint with the Better Business Bureau allegedly received a letter from the defendants’ lawyer.  According to the FTC, the letter stated that seeking a refund was extortion under Florida law and, “since you used email to make your threats, you would be subject to a federal extortion charge, which carries a term of imprisonment of up to two years and potential criminal fines.”

WPM Settlement Order

In 2018, the defendants agreed to a settlement with the Federal Trade Commission that bans them from the invention promotion business.  Under the settlement order, the defendants are also banned from  misrepresenting any good or service, and suppressing the availability of truthful negative comments or reviews by consumers.  They are also prohibited from profiting from consumers’ personal information collected as part of the challenged practices, and failing to dispose of it properly.

A $25,987,192 judgment was imposed, which was partially suspended when $78,670 in frozen funds were transferred to the Commission and the individual defendant Cooper paid $976,330.

Whitaker’s Alleged Involvement

According to media reports, court filings indicate that Whitaker received regular payments of $1,875 from the company while serving as a member of its advisory board.  It has also been reported that Whitaker sent a strongly worded email to a former customer in 2015 that had complained about the company.  Whitaker is not a named as a defendant in the case against the company.

In a statement, a Justice Department spokeswoman said, “Acting Attorney General Matt Whitaker has said he was not aware of any fraudulent activity. Any stories suggesting otherwise are false.”  In fact,   FTC investigators did not obtain evidence or internal communications showing Whitaker knew about the company’s alleged bogus promises, according to those with firsthand knowledge of the matter.  The  receiver that oversaw the settlement confirmed, recently stating to The Washington Post that he has “no reason to believe that [Whitaker] knew of any of the wrongdoing.”

Richard B. Newman is an FTC defense lawyer at Hinch Newman.  Follow him on Twitter @ FTCLawDefense.

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Mueller To Deliver Report Soon, Public May Never See

Polipace Staff



US special counsel Robert Mueller could deliver the results of his investigation into whether there was collusion between members of US President Donald Trump’s campaign and the Russian Federation within the next seven days, according to sources within the DOJ.

Other possible Mueller targets with the “most exposure,” according to Vanity Fair’s sources, include political operative Roger Stone, whose role in the campaign was scrutinized in the special counsel probe over his correspondences with WikiLeaks.

“The possible exposure” in the case of Donald Trump Jr., according to the outlet, is that he may have perjured himself when he said that he had not alerted his father prior to his June 2016 meeting with Russian lawyer Natalia Veselnitskaya in New York City’s Trump Tower, from which music publicist Rob Goldstone had promised there would be “dirt” on Hillary Clinton.

Three sources with connections to the president’s legal team told the outlet that Trump lawyer Rudy Giuliani is preparing a document to provide a counter-narrative to Mueller’s findings. “They don’t know what Mueller has, but they have a good idea, and they’re going to rebut it,” a Republican close to Giuliani said. Moscow denies interfering in the election and colluding with the Trump team.

According to POLITICO, the public, they say, shouldn’t expect a comprehensive and presidency-wrecking account of Kremlin meddling and alleged obstruction of justice by Trump — not to mention an explanation of the myriad subplots that have bedeviled lawmakers, journalists and amateur Mueller sleuths.

“That’s just the way this works,” said John Q. Barrett, a former associate counsel who worked under independent counsel Lawrence Walsh during the Reagan-era investigation into secret U.S. arms sales to Iran. “Mueller is a criminal investigator. He’s not government oversight, and he’s not a historian.”

Worse, the new acting AG Matt Whitaker tweeted approval of an NPR article suggesting that the public might never learn what special counsel Robert Mueller’s investigation reveals because the attorney general might simply decline to release Mueller’s report.

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MAGA Bomber Cesar Sayoc, Jr Was Trump Rally Celebrity Despite Being Criminal

Polipace Staff



Police have arrested a 56 year-old well-known #MAGA supporter  named Cesar Sayoc, Jr. on suspicion of being the MAGA bomber who sent 12 pipe bombs to Democrats and Donald Trump critics. He was a well known figure in Trump Rallies, and considered a bit of a celebrity amongst those who attend the Rallies.

Cesar Altieri Sayoc also has arrest history in Hennepin County, Minnesota 2005, besides criminal records in New York and Florida.

Sayoc was taken into custody close to an auto parts store in Plantation, a suburb of Miami, around 10:30 Friday morning. He was traced by DNA evidence.

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